Tuesday, March 20, 2012

How do you deal with 'complicated'?

Life is easy for people who stand only on one side of the fence.  But less so for those who have inclinations to both sides.  I can understand the difficulty in dealing with the latter because they seem so fickle-minded, it's almost impossible to know what's coming next.  If you think it's difficult to deal with that, trust me, it's even more difficult to be one of them.  Imagine if you:

Are strong but also weak.

Are innocent but also wild.

Are masculine but also girlish.

Are a go-getter but also a destroyer.

Are a people's person but hate socialising.

Want to settle down but also roam the earth.

Remain low-profile but aspire to change the world.

Care about the big picture but are anal about details.

Dislike glitz & glamour but love a Rolex Milgauss and a Chanel 225.

Are highly factual by day but turn emotional at night.

Are tough to convince but relent easily to tears.

Are submissive but need to be given a choice.

Are fiercely loyal but also anti-establishment.

Persevere but only till the last straw.

Are creative driven but mechanical.

Are spontaneous but strategic.

Are confident but shy.

When you are constantly swinging like a pendulum between two sides, you will then understand the tragedy of such predicament.  If you come across someone who's like that and you don't know how to deal with that person, here's a major tip for you.  The person is not fickle-minded, they are simply using different criteria to judge different situations which may not appear to be very consistent to you.  Thus, it's very easy to misunderstand them.  If you're unsure, the best way is to ask.  Please be fair to them, don't guess their intention because it might really turn out to be the complete opposite of what you have in mind.  Sometimes, they don't even realized they have caused a confusion.

I'm not really sure if you consider this schizophrenia or worse, a bi-polar trait but on good days, it's really good to have dual perspectives on everything.  Somehow it makes you more neutral and balanced, hence more accurate judgements.  But on bad days, it's tough to make a stand and easily sucked into confusion.  And you feel the world misunderstood you and that feeling is horrid horrid horrible.

Anyway, if you have a friend like that, good luck.  All I'm asking, is just a little patience and a whole lot of kindness.  Remember, if in doubt, just ask!

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